Today I have been thinking about disappointment. Usually this is manifested in ones-self as a result of a misplaced trust in another who we feel has let us down. We could however turn that around and instead of admonishing the other person, or feeling lost and depressed, get some semblance of control over our emotional response. For that is all it is, an emotional (very chemical reaction) reaction to an unpleasant situation.
That then leads us to think about 'trust' and what it really is. As we do not have any control, input or influence (ultimately) over another's thoughts, impulses or actions (as they do not have over ours), then we have to believe that 'trust ' is not something we actually invest in another but is a willingness to give to ones-self. We often hear the statements "I would trust him/her with my life" or "I wouldn't trust him/her as far as I could throw him/her". These adages are all about what you would or would not do, not about the other person. We could amend these statements to something like "I want to allow myself to believe that I am safe with him or her" or I will avoid giving any of my emotional store to him/her. I also believe that instinct and intuition could be considered in many situations and we should really listen to them. I know this is a bit profound but I would appreciate your comments (and patience).
Yes! I have a big disappointment this weekend but am OK
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